Erik Huber
Erik Huber
Hi, I'm Erik Huber and this is going to be the first segment in a three-part presentation about empowerment. If I had to name just one thing that causes more emotional and psychological pain than anything else, it would be this. It comes from Dr. William Glasser. He came up with choice theory. I'm a huge fan, got to work with him for a couple of years. He coined this term called External Control Psychology.
An example of External Control Psychology would be:
My day was going great until I ride a motorcycle and I was cut off in traffic.
Here's the logic:
I was happy.
Then he cut me off.
Now I'm upset.
He made me mad.
When we buy into that, it's a bad trip. We're going in a really bad direction because it leads to blame. As soon as we go to blame we have to accept the role of victim.
As soon as I say that he's responsible for how I feel, I've given the power to him. The victimizer has the power. The victim does not have the power. This external control psychology leads to blame. Victim leads to disempowerment. If you want to hear more, watch the second section. It gets even better.
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