Are you tired of experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, or anger?
Are you tired of experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, or anger?
This is what Erik Huber from My Carlsbad Therapist has to say.
If you are tired of experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, or anger there are many simple processes he can share with you, that will help you get past that. Erik is a huge fan of Byron Katie. One of her simplest concepts is the distinction between reality and our stories about reality.
Answer is...
1 We don't have emotional and psychological pain as the result of investing in reality. We have emotional and psychological pain as a result of investing in our stories about reality.
Here is how “The Work” works
It all starts with a statement of upset about an event or personal interaction that remains unresolved or unforgiven. Then comes the “Self-Inquiry”. It turns out that we can mislead others but most of us can’t mislead ourselves. The work has four questions and 3 turn arounds:
"Is it true?"
"Can I absolutely know that it's true?"
"How do I feel?", "How do I react when I believe this thought and
“Who would I be without this thought in my life?"
Ask yourself these questions. Go deep wait for the truth to raise to the surface. The truth ends our argument with reality and frees us from .
TURN AROUND to SELF –example (statement of upset) “I’m angry at Bob for yelling at me” becomes (turn around) “I’m angry at myself for creating a situation where Bob yelled at me”
TURN AROUND to OPPISITE –example (statement of upset) “I’m angry at Bob for yelling at me” becomes (turn around) “I’m grateful that Bob yelled at me” or I’m happy I have the growth that came from Bob yelling at me.
TURN AROUND to OTHER –example (statement of upset) “I’m angry at Bob for yelling at me” becomes (turn around) “I’m angry at me for yelling at Bob”
For the turn around to be to legitimate there will have to be examples of how it is true and it must be as true or truer than the original statement of upset.
If you ask those questions and you go through the self-inquiry process, it's going to lead you right back to reality, and you're going to go "Oh, that had me so upset and concerned and depressed. It's not true. I don't have to continue investing in this." We end up back with reality. We end up back at peace of mind and we're back on track. Erik has seen it help so many people.
Answered by: Erik
Erik Huber Website | Email Updated 1/19/2021 3:15:00 PM