Erik Huber
Erik Huber
Hi, my name's Erik and I'm going to share with you one of the foundational tools that I use when I'm helping my clients and that is the difference between being deliberate and acting out of default mode.
We're just reacting so here's how it comes into play... I'm driving along and someone cuts me off. All of a sudden, I find myself very frustrated, angry at this person. I give them the friendly one finger wave in a honk on the horn. That is default talking leading the way. I'm being problem focused here not thinking what my best response is, I am just reacting.
The other way of being is deliberate which is resolution focused, instead of problem focused. You have the same person cut you off, and you're thinking "Whoa, that was close, no blood, no foul. Neither car was damaged. There were no injuries involved". How do I best support myself in this? I think the best way I can support myself is not making my happiness contingent on a driver that I'm never going to see again in my life. That's the best way to take care of myself is to deliberately choose the best response.
Be deliberate. Don't react out of default. You can choose your best response deliberately, or you're going to react out of default.
My name's Eric Huber. I have a private practice in Carlsbad, California. Please feel free to call me. I have a free 20 minute phone consultation. Thank you