Is he or she wasting my time?
Hello, my name is Janine Monize. I'm the CEO of Gem Revealed self-mastery to soul me. I'm a life strategist and a relationship coach. I've been in this industry of human behavior and self-development for almost 20 years and I'm looking forward to answering many of your relationship questions. One that I get quite often is this
Is he or she wasting my time?
Answer is:
1 It depends.
Let's take a look at this. You've been together for a while and things were going great. Suddenly, I don't know where this person seems to be pulling away, not making plans for the weekend, maybe the text messages aren't coming in like they used to. These are things that cause you to ponder and there's a myriad of reasons that this could be happening.
2 I'll give you three things to think about. Three things that are very common.
The first and foremost is your communication style. Are you communicating from a place of security, excitement and sharing opinions adding into the relationship or do you find yourself speaking from a place of insecurity, judgment or jealousy? Really reflect upon it because that can cause a toxic foundation.
Second is intimacy. Did you introduce intimacy interrelationship too soon? Male and females have very different emotional capital around this topic and it introduced too soon can definitely rattle the foundation. I come from a thought process that some of you may think that I'm from the prehistoric, dinosaur age, and firmly believe that that intimacy should be saved for marriage.
Many reasons why, but first and foremost, it is something that creates a really strong bond. If you put that into your relationship too soon, you could no longer gauge the health of the relationship. You'd have no understanding of is this relationship healthy or not? Because you're so focused on the bond. This is usually more for women than men.
The next thing to think about is this. Are you moving too quickly? Are you focusing on conversations that are so futuristic? Are you bringing up marriage and children and how are we going to live happily ever after? Instead of really focusing on discovering, these things can frighten your partner and cause them to separate.
If you've noticed any of these attributes showing up, is it too late? I don't believe it is.
First really think about, do you have the same core values that can create alignment for the future? If you really believe it's worth salvaging that, what I could suggest is I'd love you to go to the gemrevealed.com and look under media.
There are so many great articles and podcasts that can really help you shape what it looks like to have a healthy, abundant, long lasting relationship.
